“Be the change you want to see in the world.” — Gandhi
The reality is, whether we’ve experienced some form of trauma in our lives or have been witness to pain and hardship in others, bad things happen in our world. To transform the world around us, we need to start with one person—ourselves.
Focus on healing yourself, and in turn you’re doing the world some good as well. We can only control and change ourselves, while others can be influenced by us, we will only ever be able to alter our own lives. By witnessing positive change in someone else, we may feel compelled to do the same for ourselves, and visa versa.
“You are ultimately the only person who is in charge of how you feel, and the only person who can change how you feel.” — Theo Fleury from ‘Conversations with a Rattlesnake’
When it comes to trauma, letting other factors take the wheel will only serve to stand in your way of healing. Justice, apologies, empathy from others: these things are all great additions to our healing journey, but the end game shouldn’t be something you can get from anyone else. Until we learn to focus on ourselves, we won’t see anything else change around us.
“The cycle of abuse doesn’t just stop here; the cycle of healing starts. Heal yourself first and change will follow.” — Theo Fleury from ‘Conversations with a Rattlesnake’
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– Written by Amber Craig
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