Why shame has no place in healing


Shame and guilt are painful feelings that surround the minds of many people who have experienced trauma, and it can have a seemingly tight grip on our lives and our healing.

But shame and guilt are profoundly different, and understanding … Read the rest

How the media can better support trauma survivors


The media has many important roles, and timely and sensitive coverage of stories can be very helpful, particularly when it comes to emergency situations. There are many benefits to media coverage: positive changes in public perception and policy; awareness on important … Read the rest

Infidelity, Sex Addiction and the Trauma Behind the Ashley Madison Hack


Last week, a story broke that has caused more stir than a lot of headlines in recent memory—the Ashley Madison hack. If you missed the story, Ashley Madison is the world’s most popular online dating site, a Toronto-based website that … Read the rest

How Healthy Relationships Nurture Healing


It’s no secret that healthy relationships make us happy, but loving and being loved is actually good for our health and can cultivate healing as well. Whether it’s a strong friendship or romantic relationship, there’s a scientific reason why love … Read the rest

Remembering that you are not your story


Everyone is on a journey in life, and we all have a story to tell. Where we’ve been, what we’ve overcome, where we’re going, has all helped to shape our lives; but it’s important to differentiate between what shapes us, … Read the rest

Why having compassion matters


Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. — Dalai Lama

When we encounter something joyful in our lives, it’s easy for us to instantly react with love and compassion. But pain doesn’t instinctively translate into compassion … Read the rest

Compassion for Offenders


Tough topic.  Some cultures still take the literal position that “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth” is absolutely justifiable.  Of all the people on earth, offenders (people who hurt people) are the ones most likely to … Read the rest

“Healing Thrives in Conversation”


As the book’s title alludes to, ‘Conversations With A Rattlesnake’ in essence is a conversation, a conversation that strives to generate other conversations around the world. Conversations about trauma. Conversations about trust. Conversations about healing.

“Talking. Safe, open and vulnerable

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